Don’t Lose Yourself in Love, Motherhood, or Faith

It’s so easy to lose pieces of yourself in the comfort of a relationship or the busy rhythm of motherhood. At first, it feels like love, you’re giving, sacrificing, making space for someone else. But slowly, if you’re not careful, it becomes neglect of your own heart, health, and spirit.

When I became a mom, I noticed how quickly I slipped into survival mode. I’d eat whatever my daughter left behind instead of preparing my own meal. I’d skip the things that once made me feel alive because there just wasn’t time. Even in marriage, comfort can lull us into living side by side rather than truly growing together. The date nights fade, the small rituals fade, and slowly, you fade.

And it’s not just about good health or hobbies. Faith is part of who I am too. Going to church, reading my Bible and praying with my spouse like we did when we were first married, keeping God in the center of our home, those aren’t extras, they’re essential. When those rhythms fall away, I don’t just lose myself, I lose the foundation that steadies me.

This isn’t just something women experience either. Men can lose themselves in the weight of providing, in routine, in the quiet way they stop tending to their own souls. A healthy relationship means both partners are paying attention, to themselves and to each other and holding each other accountable even when it’s hard. So I’ve been reminding myself of this: my family needs me whole. My husband needs a wife who’s still herself, still connected to God, still passionate. My daughter needs a mom who doesn’t disappear into sacrifice but shows her what balance, health, and faith look like lived out.

It doesn’t have to be complicated, it can look like eating a real meal, taking a walk, saying yes to a hobby, or holding hands and praying together before bed. The small choices matter, because they add up to the person you’re becoming. Because at the end of the day, taking care of yourself, body, mind, and spirit, isn’t selfish. It’s an act of love. For your spouse. For your children. For yourself. And ultimately, for God

If you’re reading this, take a moment today to pause and ask yourself: Am I caring for the person God created me to be? Whether you’re a parent, a partner, or simply someone who pours out love for others, your wholeness matters. Your health, your faith, your joy. they’re not optional, they’re essential. I love you all!