A Girl’s Girl, but Make It a Mom’s Mom

I used to think being a girl’s girl was the highest honor. And it is. Being the kind of woman who supports other women is beautiful. But when I became a mom, I realized we need something more. We need mom’s 

What’s a Mom’s Mom?

A mom’s mom is the one who steps in with encouragement, support, and zero judgment. She knows that motherhood is equal parts beautiful and exhausting, and she is willing to show up in both.

For me, that has looked like offering breastfeeding advice and nourishment tips when I saw another mom struggling. It has looked like sending uplifting and relatable posts to friends who just needed to feel seen. It has looked like offering to step in so another mom could have a moment of alone time without guilt. One time, during two weeks of solo parenting, my best friend came over just so I could shower and take care of myself. That’s the kind of presence and love that makes you breathe a little deeper and remember you’re not doing this alone.

It has also looked like reminding moms they are doing a good job, even when they don’t feel like it, and encouraging moms to share with one another, because connection is the heartbeat of community.

Why It Matters

Motherhood can feel isolating, like you are carrying the heaviest load while trying to smile through it. A mom’s mom reminds you that you are not carrying it alone. She makes the ordinary magical and the hard days a little lighter.

And honestly, we need each other. Girlhood thrives on solidarity. Motherhood survives on it.

How to Be a Mom’s Mom

Being a mom’s mom doesn’t require perfection, just presence. It means celebrating instead of competing. It means offering instead of asking, showing up with a meal or coffee instead of saying “let me know if you need anything.” It means being vulnerable enough to share the messy moments so another mom can breathe. And it means cheering for the small victories, potty training, surviving bedtime, or just making it through the day because those wins matter too.

Both, Not Either

And here’s the thing, you don’t have to choose. I am totally a girl’s girl and a mom’s mom. My love and friendship are not limited to just moms, or even just women in general. But motherhood is what I know best, and lately, it has also started to look like more than a calling. It may even be a new career path for me. Supporting moms feels natural, and it feels needed.

Being a girl’s girl is beautiful, but being a mom’s mom is powerful. It is showing up for each other in the chaos, the milestones, and the in-between moments. It is building the kind of village that makes motherhood feel less lonely and a lot more magical. The truth is, I didn’t really have this kind of support when I was pregnant or in the newborn phase. In fact, I lost friends during that season. But here I am, a year and a half later, helping to create and encourage the very kind of community I wish all moms had.

Because at the end of the day, we don’t just need community. We need each other. 

So here’s my challenge to you: today, send a mom your favorite photo of her, especially if it’s one with her little ones. Those are the hardest to capture and often the most treasured. Remind her she’s beautiful, she’s seen, and she’s doing a good job. Sometimes one picture is enough to remind her of who she really is.